My husband’s mother had surgery for cancer yesterday. While most of my day went by as normal, in the back of my mind I realized that my husband must really be upset today even if he isn’t showing it. The dare yesterday was about cherishing my spouse. “What need does your spouse have that you could meet today? Can you run an errand? Give a back grub or foot massage? Is there housework you could help with? Choose a gesture that says, “I cherish you” and do it with a smile.” Cherishing James on that day meant supporting him when part of his world was a little shaky.
My husband loves his mother a ton. She put her entire life into raising him into an outstanding person. While James doesn’t always wear his feeling on his sleeve, as his wife, I knew he was upset about her surgery. I can’t read him like a book, but I know his book by heart.
The need that James had was in regards to encouragement. He needed support. While it was simple and took little time, I wrote him a special note that let him know that I was on his side. I would be there for him.
His mom’s surgery went well. God has her in his hands. While cancer is a scary thing, so is life. We never know what tomorrow may hold, but we can trust God no matter the outcome. James is doing well too. He is encouraged by the good report from his mother, and I think he was encouraged to know he has his family behind him too. Saying “I cherish you” can be as simple as letting my spouse know that no matter where he is in life, I am right there beside him.
That is so sweet Brooke. I am a cancer survivor. It shook my world up thinking about my thyroid being removed. Bert was there for me 100%. He came off of night shift immediatly took me to the hospital. He was there the entire time and I know he would have rather gone home and taken a nap. I think he did, when my Dad got to the hospital room for recovery. Being there and showing you care is always a great gesture. I'm saying prayers for James mother. Let me know how her recovery goes. Peace be unto you.
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