I see no reason to disclose the specifics of this dare to the world, or the intimate details of my physical relationship with my husband. Still, there is plenty to blog about.
Many women have their views of sex tainted by what the world has to say on the topic. The media makes sex out to be some cheap pleasure meant for any person, any time. Sex In the City, soap operas, and every other movie make it seem unusual for a woman to remain loyal to one man. In fact, they make it look exciting for women to be "empowered" or in control of their own sex life. Let me reassure you that this is a lie. What is empowering is the grace of God covering the life of a married woman who keeps her marriage bed pure. She is no less in control of her sex life and no less bold. She knows that sex is about love, not power, not lust, and not even about pleasure. The world says that sex is about pleasure and about the individual, but God says sex is about the oneness of marriage and about sharing genuine love. I prefer to accept the authentic version and not some cheap
I would imagine some people do not want to hear that sex is not all about them being pleased. Too bad. Selfish sex is not God's intention. Which is why it is so terrible when a woman empowers herself by holding back something that means so much to her husband. Many, many, many men receive love by physical interaction, by withholding sex women are withholding respect and love. If you are a woman who cannot understand why your relationship with your husband is so poor, yet you keep your body from your husband, then you may need to rethink your decision. The Bible says in I Corinthians 7:4, "The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does." Basically, withholding the precious gift of sex from your husband is wrong. It causes a separation that is not intended in the marriage relationship.
It's never too late to accept the real deal and put away being selfish. Whether your sex life has been tainted by
1. Pray with your husband about your sex life. God cares about every aspect of your marriage and sex in marriage is in no way shameful. Ask God to bless your sex life and He will.
2. Make time to talk. Yes, I know talking seems to have nothing to do with sex, but how can you have an authentic loving physical relationship if you do not talk to each other and know each others daily joys and pains. Talking is a very important part of intimacy.
3. Confirm your husband! Build him up. Tell him the good things he does. Praise him for being the provider, the fixer, or the strong one of the household. If you want him to act like a manly man in your physical relationship, then make sure he feels like a manly man in your marriage.
4. Accept his advances. Don't push away his arm or tell him that you are too busy. For Pete's sake, don't tell him you have a headache! As his wife, accept him, confirm him, and let him pursue you.
5. Make time to . . . yunno! Set time apart in the day or at least in the week that is made a priority. Make your physical relationship an important part of your marriage relationship.
6. Get the kids out of the bed. I know this sounds harsh, but it is so important that a man and wife have the marriage bed to themselves. Sharing on occasion is not bad, but the lack of physical intimacy caused by having children always in the bed can cause serious problems to a marriage.
Marriage and sex are God's idea. As a spouse, you must consider how to care for your husband emotionally, intellectually, and physically. For the wife that refuses to consider her husband in this manner, she is dooming her own marriage. I honestly believe this. Tend your marriage and love your husband completely.
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